Skyla (She/her) is your friendly neighborhood mermaid. Throughout her time in the scene, she has been involved with many organizations and events. A common theme for her throughout her event planning life, is a love for making people feel included and that they matter. Skyla plans events and engineers learning experiences in her vanilla & kinky life.
She got her start in kinky event planning with the New England Dungeon Society as Secretary and Events Chair for 2 years. She planned parties, workshops, and social outings. One of her favorite roles was running new member orientation, helping people feel welcome and demystifying new situations is what she lives for.
Skyla went on to serve as the Volunteer Coordinator for Dark Odyssey (Summer Camp, Fusion & Winter Fire) and the Ion Coordinator (Fusion and Summer Camp) for 3 years. She redesigned the entire volunteer program from the ground up, laying the groundwork for more appreciation for volunteers, compensation that was equitable, and dynamic spreadsheets to tie it all together. She has been a volunteer for Bound in Boston since 2012, serving on the staff and consent team for a handful of years. In the con’s final year, Skyla served as the co-producer and programming coordinator. In addition to her official roles, she created & designed the program booklet and developed & delivered an entirely online consent response training for the consent team.
When she isn’t behind the scenes at events, she enjoys rope (tying and being tied), being a cat lady, reading true-crime novels, dancing (especially with her flow wand), and drinking the largest iced coffee available.
Skyla loves meeting new people, so please introduce yourself if you see her!
Ozma of Oz
Ozma, short for Ozma of Oz by L. Frank Baum, is a community organization enthusiast whose adventures in public kink started in the year 2000 when she walked into her first munch. She put pen to waiver just slightly after her 18th birthday and over the years has both observed and participated in the evolution of BDSM in the public eye and open internet with experiences ranging from tearful pride to open horror and back again.
A scientist by trade and helpful facilitator by nature, she discovered a great deal about herself through her involvement in developing and designing kink events. Between her work as the Director of ROPECRAFT Event and Event Engineering duties with Skyla at Tethered Together, she neither leaves her home nor wears pants most days. That suits her just fine as she carefully blends her exciting professional life with the quiet joys of parenthood home in Kansas with her high school sweetheart, L. Frank Baum.
Ozma quietly holds strong convictions about power and the responsibilities that come with leadership and works to uphold those ideals with humility in all of her projects. You’ll often find her in her natural habitat (buried in spreadsheets), listening and learning to more effectively meet the needs of her community, and/or walking quickly holding a hot cup of coffee.
She firmly believes that the practices of kink and involvement in alternative lifestyle communities can enrich our lives and that community is intentional and is worth the work we put into creating inclusive, welcoming, supported and supportive spaces.
Tethered Together 2020 Staff
Niagara of the Falls
Niagara of the Falls came into the public scene in 2015 after finding her love of being tied something that didn’t need to be hidden. You might have seen her at RopeCraft selling merch in varying states of undress. Outside of kink life, she volunteers at a farm animal sanctuary and has a darling dog and cat. She isn’t shy, but rather quiet and introverted. Come see her at the merch booth and say hey!
River & Adeline
Dungeon Monitor Leads
River and Adeline are a polyamorous, pansexual, switchy duo with a passion for education, preparation, and inclusive communication. Adeline is an Eagle Scout and self-proclaimed princess of dad jokes who has been teaching kink since college. River has been running emergency response trainings since 2012 and excels at surviving Adeline’s puns. For over 6 years, they have led DM trainings and managed dungeon monitor teams for events across the east coast with the goal of creating a welcoming and supportive dungeon environment.
Skyla & Ozma’s Assistant
Dejantu has been in the kink scene since the early 90’s, and has always enjoyed power exchange dynamics. Over 8 years ago, he met PinkBikerGirl, and together they became active in the local New Hampshire kink scene. He found a love of rope bondage, Kinbaku, and went to nearly every event around to learn as much as he could about the art form. He has helped run rope lounges at the Fetish Flea events, mentored at local area rope groups, and started the Manchester Rope Group. He and PinkBikerGirl, along with a few other leaders in the New Hampshire area, started the MARK group and in the past ran nearly 50 events a year, including multiple munches and many diverse events (both kink and vanilla) with kinky people. In 2014, he became a board member for KinkyCon, and loves being part of a great event that provides quality kink education from lifestyle experts. He enjoys discussing, teaching, mentoring, and participating in BDSM and D/s activities.
Evan (he/him) is your friendly neighborhood security lead, rope top, and friendly sadist and dominant. Located out of the D.C. area for over a decade and passionate about enabling accessible and diverse rope education events.
MsElaine’s midlife crisis began with a flogger & a chainsaw. Local upstate NY was the home base for exploring both back eight odd years ago. She has spent most of those years attending national events to hone skills and meet some wonderful folks. No! not at the same time; well there was this one time in Chicago.
She is a creative person to the core with an enthusiasm to encourage exploration and growth within herself and others. She has explored this on her own and within the BDSM community, sharing opportunities that others may say “I can’t - I don’t”.
Fourteen plus year of successful poly-living steered MsElaine into facilitating local poly community growth in Upstate NY before learning the ropes. Since then she has led classes for rope novices and those curious at Rochester Erotic Art Festival(REAF). Lady’s Wicked Playground, as part of GRUE’s, Exotic Fantasies Convention and other local clubs.
The last six years she has been one of the riggers for the Rope Fashion Show that kicks off REAF. MsElaine creates some entertaining runway pieces with her models.
For two very short years she hosted a monthly RopeBite in the Finger Lakes region of New York before her relocation to Georgia just south of Atlanta. Most recent focuses have been REAF, Ropecraft and with much excitement being able to work with some amazing folks for the new Tethered Together in 2019.
Her presence at events, whether it’s as a volunteer, staff or presenter wards off shyness and fulfills the need for peopling while encouraging others to explore their own creative sides to be the best they can be.
NotsoVanillo is a sadist with a smile. He enjoys rough body play and turning his willing partners into piles of gooey happy awesomeness. When he‘s not beating, he’s eating, and loves to cook for his friends and family. Since 2012, he‘s been on the kinky roller coaster of love hand-in-hand with Skyla. He’s been involved over the years in various organizations and events, and is happy to be helping out Tethered Together as your Registration Guru Extraordinaire!
Technology & Operations Coordinator
RopeRider is a compulsive social engineer. Inspired and driven by erotic curiosity, he began his journey with rope bondage as a fetish photographer, but quickly discovered that rope can be used to create intimacy, amplify connection, and make a tasty space for sensual surrender. In his spare time, RopeRider enjoys petting cats and building social frameworks that support and encourage perversion.
Tethered Together 2020 Support Staff
Peer Support Lead
Cultlamb‘s turning point into BDSM happened sometime in the mid-’80s when she was innocently asked to wear a bondage/latex outfit to a dungeon party in London. It’s been all weird and wonderful since then. Currently, she identifies as an ethical spiritual switchy Sadomasochist that is pansexual, demisexual, poly, Femme leaning, sometimes androgynous/ fluid, depending on the day. She has volunteered her real vanilla world collaborative, advocacy and restorative justice skills in many different types of settings and her most important kink pursuits is to serve and support safe, intersectional and accessible events, build community, teach communication and relational mindfulness, and empower others to be sex, body, and kink positive. Consent turns her on.